Thursday, April 11, 2013

The One With the In-Laws

I really felt like I needed a post about the awesomeness of my in-laws.
Sorry. This is not a post to make monster-in-law jokes.
Because, let's face it, people, I was blessed with the most incredible in-laws in the world.

I. Love. Them.
They are so so wonderful.

I knew I was getting a good deal when I married Ben, but I had no idea what a blessing his family would be to me too.

So...I've had several friends who date boys, and, for whatever reason, the guy's parents hate the girl (somehow it never seems to be the other way around...). But these girls always justify the relationship by saying, "Well, it's okay. I'm going to be marrying him. Not his family."

Ah!!! Lie! Lie! Lie!

Especially if you are a member of the church, how do you expect that you'll be with YOUR family for time and all eternity, but not his?

And even if religion isn't your flavor, where do you think that boy learned his table manners? Or his spending habits? Or even how often he does his laundry?

And where do you think you will be spending half of your Christmases, Thanksgivings, birthdays or otherwise?

Anyhow, the point I'm trying to make is that, whether you like it or not, in-laws will be a part of your life. In whatever way.

Lucky for me, I like it.

Ben's mom is the sweetest person ever. You can always find her serving someone. One time I read a quote that said something like, "Make sure you read something that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it." Ben's mom (and not for wanting to look good) always has an uplifting book in hand. She's so caring and I look up to her in so many ways.
And she's beautiful too! Doesn't Ben look so much like her?
Ben has 4 sisters (no brothers), all older. Before I met them, people would say, "Ooh, only sisters? Good luck with that!" I was so scared to meet them! Girls can be so catty and judgy. But Ben's sisters took me in and they make me feel like I've been a part of their special friendship from the beginning of time. They are hilarious and crazy, but it's my kind of crazy, so I'll take it. Not to mention, their spouses are all pretty awesome as well.
The nieces and nephews are absolutely crazy (what kids aren't??). But they are also very cute and sweet if you catch them in the right moment.
See what I mean about crazy??



And see what I mean about cute?
(sorry, I don't have many pics of them, unfortunately).
 Awesome cousins? Ben's got 'em.
Awesome aunts and uncles? Check.
Grandparents? Also awesome.

Again, don't have many pictures. I guess we've got the important cousins;)
Last but not least, Ben had the most incredible dad that anyone could ask for. I don't know how Papa Brown did it, but he perfected unconditional love. He was hilarious. His advice was:
  • "Rock on with your bad self."
  • "Fear ain't a part of my life."
  • "Let's get after it like we're killing snakes." (Anyone who knows me, knows how much I like that idea!)


It's been hard having him gone. But, even through the difficulty of losing him, I know:
  • He's in a better place. He doesn't hurt anymore. He can see.
  • He's happy and he's serving us from the other side.
  • He taught my husband everything he needs to know about being an amazing father.


 I only knew Papa Brown for a little over a year. But in that year I learned so much from him. I am so glad that I know that families are forever. And I'm so glad that when I married Ben, I didn't marry just him. I married his whole family too.

:)

3 comments:

A said...

weeping, and I didn't even know him. So sorry for your loss, and I'm glad you married into such a great family.

Our Family said...

Kim, I love this post! I'm glad you're happy to be in our crazy family - we loooove you being in it! Ben couldn't have gotten anyone better! Thanks for the neat post.

whitney said...

Ahhh, love this post! I'm so glad you married into a great family. Good in-laws can make such a difference in a marriage!

which I know because I got some of the best! I'm so glad you're MY in-law and that I married into such an amazing family. I was a little nervous marrying into it just because y'all are SO SO different from my side, but I've learned to love the differences and I've learned so much from them too. it's nice because Spencer and I were raised so differently that we can see the good and bad with both ways and aim for somewhere in-between :)